A Mother's Guilt
Time: 2:06pm
Where: My bedroom
Who: Mommy
Why: Mommy's stupidness
What:The unforgiveable...Mommy made Kaelin go bang!
The day would come... the unthinkable became the inevitable. I bumped Kaelin's head on the shelf. I knew that it would be the first of many. Oops I lied ... when she a less than a month old...I accidently clipped the skin of her finger while cutting her nails with the nail clipper. It was awful ...there was blood and everything. I sucked on her finger like a vampire to nurse her and her first boo-boo.
It was a normal routine for us, I brought Kaelin over to the bed for her feeding and as I raised her up to check whether she did the #1 or #2, all I heard was a "thud". As I immediately brought her down, she looked up at me in silence, her lip quivered than a loud cry came out from her mouth. In shock and disbelief, I quickly consoled her and apologized profusely while shoving the bottle of milk into her mouth. That seemed to pacify her but not me. All I could think of was...brain damage, skull fracture, head deformity, concussion, memory loss, emotional scarring and that it was all my fault.
With closer inspection, there was no "goose egg" to be found...thank god! I know, I know...she will survive but my guilt was far worse than the act itself. How could a mother cause her child any physical or emotional grief and harm? I think that I was more appalled that my own daughter got hurt in my care and supervision and that I was the unknowing perpetrator and culprit. The truth finally dawned on me that my baby will physically and emotionally get hurt while not under my watch. Like other bumps, scrapes and bruises, I will kiss them to make her feel better. But when life gets harder, the reality will set in that my kisses won't help anymore. Alas, I will never be rid of the mother's guilt.